Comments on: To Move Or Not To Move http://www.youknowyouwanna.net/2004/06/29/to-move-or-not-to-move/ A Sneak Peak Into My Crazy Life, and the Technology, Books, Movies & Music I Enjoy Sun, 07 Sep 2008 07:02:13 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: muspirit http://www.youknowyouwanna.net/2004/06/29/to-move-or-not-to-move/#comment-15561 muspirit Sun, 25 Jun 2006 02:29:13 +0000 http://www.youknowyouwanna.net/2004/06/29/to-move-or-not-to-move/#comment-15561 I have the same problem. I have lived in a quaint, mayberry existence for 22 years. My daughter now lives in Kansas (I in a very small town in Kentucky). I have worked for 10 years with the schools and see lots of friends, former students that I know. I love this small town. Well, the husband divorced me after 25 years, son just graduated from high school and financial security is now an issue. A huge job just opened up in another state where my family lives and they all want me to move as I would be making $40,000 a year. But it's in a huge town, cold concrete and parking lots everywhere. The only people I know are family. In my small town, my babies were born there, grew up there and one will remain there staying with his friends going to college. Do I really want this change, total change in jobs, in towns, emotionally no..but practically...it's the money. Help! I have the same problem. I have lived in a quaint, mayberry existence for 22 years. My daughter now lives in Kansas (I in a very small town in Kentucky). I have worked for 10 years with the schools and see lots of friends, former students that I know. I love this small town. Well, the husband divorced me after 25 years, son just graduated from high school and financial security is now an issue. A huge job just opened up in another state where my family lives and they all want me to move as I would be making $40,000 a year. But it’s in a huge town, cold concrete and parking lots everywhere. The only people I know are family. In my small town, my babies were born there, grew up there and one will remain there staying with his friends going to college. Do I really want this change, total change in jobs, in towns, emotionally no..but practically…it’s the money. Help!

]]> By: darkeyesdreamin http://www.youknowyouwanna.net/2004/06/29/to-move-or-not-to-move/#comment-584 darkeyesdreamin Wed, 30 Jun 2004 15:30:22 +0000 http://www.youknowyouwanna.net/2004/06/29/to-move-or-not-to-move/#comment-584 You do have a point...but... To live somewhere where you find comforts outside of your own skin does not mean that you are not comfortable being you. There is a point where there are emotions and experiences a person will never feel or encounter unless they are surround by those who can take them there and an environment that allows for that to happen. It does not have to be the dream place to live in but it has to allow for that growth. For whatever future you are looking at - short term or long term. Whether you move or stay, look at where each place and those who live there will take you. Ask: Is it what you need? As for home being a myth...it is always more real than you think... You do have a point…but…

To live somewhere where you find comforts outside of your own skin does not mean that you are not comfortable being you. There is a point where there are emotions and experiences a person will never feel or encounter unless they are surround by those who can take them there and an environment that allows for that to happen. It does not have to be the dream place to live in but it has to allow for that growth. For whatever future you are looking at - short term or long term.

Whether you move or stay, look at where each place and those who live there will take you. Ask: Is it what you need?

As for home being a myth…it is always more real than you think…

]]> By: jaxia http://www.youknowyouwanna.net/2004/06/29/to-move-or-not-to-move/#comment-583 jaxia Wed, 30 Jun 2004 10:52:07 +0000 http://www.youknowyouwanna.net/2004/06/29/to-move-or-not-to-move/#comment-583 My concern is that I should be comfortable in my own skin. I shouldn't need to move in order to be comfortable. What I am trying to work out is making sure I am moving because I see no future for me here, not for any other reason. This: "This decision is no bigger than the previous" is a great piece of advice. At this point, home is mythical. We shall see if it ever becomes reality. My concern is that I should be comfortable in my own skin. I shouldn’t need to move in order to be comfortable. What I am trying to work out is making sure I am moving because I see no future for me here, not for any other reason.

This: “This decision is no bigger than the previous”
is a great piece of advice.

At this point, home is mythical. We shall see if it ever becomes reality.

]]> By: darkeyesdreamin http://www.youknowyouwanna.net/2004/06/29/to-move-or-not-to-move/#comment-582 darkeyesdreamin Wed, 30 Jun 2004 05:25:05 +0000 http://www.youknowyouwanna.net/2004/06/29/to-move-or-not-to-move/#comment-582 So you are in that spot where you don't know where you really want to be or what really is ever going to make you happy. Yes, there are things we do in life that seems as though we are running away and really all we are trying to do is get to that place where we feel comfort, whether it is in a lover, a town, in a home or just surrounded by familiar faces. This is a decision little one that only you can make, but be ready for things after this decision no matter how much you think this will be the last one you have to make to not work out. That is apart of life. This decision is no bigger than the previous. Look at it that way and maybe you will realize the answer is right in front of you. As for me I hear ya. This is not my home. This is just a holding tank. I just recently went on a vacation and I got a taste of a life that I have been searching for. I can honestly say I had the time of my life being able to experience what I want the next chapter of my life to be like with a person I really care about and love. I think that person made me realize I needed to take a look at me and find out what I want life to be. Here is the Goal: To be successful career wise....to make the home that I have never really had before.....to raise a beautiful family full of love....to travel and see the world...to be happy....make plans when needed...go on hope and have the faith that in the end I will end up on a porch old and still as young as I am now drinking iced tea with the woman I love and surrounded by all the people we care about. That is the future I want. I would like it soon but will it be a long road there? Maybe... Am I ready for it? YES... Just make yourself happy. I faith in you and always will. Remember you will always have people who care about you supporting you the whole way. You will find that home that you have been searching for, little one. So you are in that spot where you don’t know where you really want to be or what really is ever going to make you happy. Yes, there are things we do in life that seems as though we are running away and really all we are trying to do is get to that place where we feel comfort, whether it is in a lover, a town, in a home or just surrounded by familiar faces.

This is a decision little one that only you can make, but be ready for things after this decision no matter how much you think this will be the last one you have to make to not work out. That is apart of life. This decision is no bigger than the previous. Look at it that way and maybe you will realize the answer is right in front of you.

As for me I hear ya. This is not my home. This is just a holding tank. I just recently went on a vacation and I got a taste of a life that I have been searching for. I can honestly say I had the time of my life being able to experience what I want the next chapter of my life to be like with a person I really care about and love. I think that person made me realize I needed to take a look at me and find out what I want life to be.

Here is the Goal:
To be successful career wise….to make the home that I have never really had before…..to raise a beautiful family full of love….to travel and see the world…to be happy….make plans when needed…go on hope and have the faith that in the end I will end up on a porch old and still as young as I am now drinking iced tea with the woman I love and surrounded by all the people we care about.

That is the future I want. I would like it soon but will it be a long road there? Maybe… Am I ready for it? YES…

Just make yourself happy. I faith in you and always will. Remember you will always have people who care about you supporting you the whole way.

You will find that home that you have been searching for, little one.

]]> By: pathfinder02 http://www.youknowyouwanna.net/2004/06/29/to-move-or-not-to-move/#comment-581 pathfinder02 Tue, 29 Jun 2004 11:58:22 +0000 http://www.youknowyouwanna.net/2004/06/29/to-move-or-not-to-move/#comment-581 yea i know what u mean. i grew up in upstate ny. its quite different down here..but anything beats that small lil town where im from. still miss it though. yea i know what u mean. i grew up in upstate ny. its quite different down here..but anything beats that small lil town where im from. still miss it though.

]]> By: jaxia http://www.youknowyouwanna.net/2004/06/29/to-move-or-not-to-move/#comment-580 jaxia Tue, 29 Jun 2004 11:03:41 +0000 http://www.youknowyouwanna.net/2004/06/29/to-move-or-not-to-move/#comment-580 I just haven't ever stayed in one place very long. I am really ready to settle down (I am getting old!) but I don't think here is the place for me. I just haven’t ever stayed in one place very long. I am really ready to settle down (I am getting old!) but I don’t think here is the place for me.

]]> By: jaxia http://www.youknowyouwanna.net/2004/06/29/to-move-or-not-to-move/#comment-579 jaxia Tue, 29 Jun 2004 10:59:56 +0000 http://www.youknowyouwanna.net/2004/06/29/to-move-or-not-to-move/#comment-579 Well, I grew up in Houston, but moved to Dallas after college. I am thinking about moving back to Dallas. All my friends are there, my old stomping grounds (plus better jobs, more women and ya know, IMPORTANT things ;) Well, I grew up in Houston, but moved to Dallas after college. I am thinking about moving back to Dallas. All my friends are there, my old stomping grounds (plus better jobs, more women and ya know, IMPORTANT things ;)

]]> By: sichernde_seele http://www.youknowyouwanna.net/2004/06/29/to-move-or-not-to-move/#comment-578 sichernde_seele Tue, 29 Jun 2004 09:43:22 +0000 http://www.youknowyouwanna.net/2004/06/29/to-move-or-not-to-move/#comment-578 It happens to us Aries, too. *hugs* While some people in the world view it as running away, others tend to view it as following your heart. In the end, you have to do what makes you happy. Otherwise, you end up kicking yourself for settling for things that don't make you happy. Sichy~ It happens to us Aries, too. *hugs*

While some people in the world view it as running away, others tend to view it as following your heart. In the end, you have to do what makes you happy. Otherwise, you end up kicking yourself for settling for things that don’t make you happy.

Sichy~

]]> By: pathfinder02 http://www.youknowyouwanna.net/2004/06/29/to-move-or-not-to-move/#comment-577 pathfinder02 Tue, 29 Jun 2004 09:04:31 +0000 http://www.youknowyouwanna.net/2004/06/29/to-move-or-not-to-move/#comment-577 where is home? where is home?

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