“FUCK” was still scratched in above it. As I’ve been doing my best to incorporate most of these amendments, I don’t think it fair to suddenly exclude this one even if it did mean a pretty radical shift in tone. By now you’ve probably noticed that except when safely contained by quotes, Zampano always steers clear of such questionable four-letter language. This instance in particular proves that beneath all that cool pseudo-academic hogwash lurked a very passionate man who knew how important it was to say “fuck” now and then, and say it loud too, relish its syllabic sweetness, its immigrant pride, a great American epic word really, starting at the lower lip, often the very front of the lower lip, before racing all the way to the back of the throat, where it finishes with a great blast, the concussive force of the K catching up then with the hush of the F already on its way, thus loading it with plenty of offense and edge and certainly ambiguity. FUCK. A great by-the-bootstrap prayer or curse if you prefer, depending on how you look at it, or use it, suited perfectly for hurling at the skies or at the world, or sometimes, if said just right, for uttering with enough love and fire, the woman beside you melts inside herself, immersed in all that word-heat.
House of Leaves – Mark Z. Danielewski
Isn’t that last line awesome? Here, let me show you again:
“sometimes, if said just right, for uttering with enough love and fire, the woman beside you melts inside herself, immersed in all that word-heat”
And that, my dear, is why I don’t think there is anything wrong with saying (or hearing!) ‘fuck me’ in bed.
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Dunno. I think it’s a personal preference sort of thing. ‘Fuck me’ turns me off, whereas ‘love me’ or just ‘yes’ pushes all the buttons. Then again, it’s been quite a long time since my buttons were pushed, so I’ve no idea what exactly pushes them anymore.
Yarha, Button Pusher
Comment by yarha — September 22, 2004 @ 2:59 am
I’m either a conservative or a romantic. Answer hazy, ask again later.
Yarha, Love, Sex or Romance?
Comment by yarha — September 22, 2004 @ 3:02 am
love me? I don’t think I have ever said that in bed. Brings to mind “me love you long time”
/shudder
Personally, it depends on the situation…sometimes things are tender and sweet, but under the right circumstances…Fuck is definitely appropriate.
Comment by jaxia — September 22, 2004 @ 3:05 am
I’m a romantic. But there is sex, making love and fucking. You can do all 3 with one person.
Comment by jaxia — September 22, 2004 @ 3:06 am
me no like you anyway. you have small dingaling!
yeah, I’m all about yelling at him to fuck me if I’m in the need for it.. tho, hearing it, it’d probably make me giggle and lose interest. (=
Comment by spycedtx — September 22, 2004 @ 4:07 am
*raised eyebrows*
It’s not small at all.
Are you a bottom? Do you ever top?
Comment by jaxia — September 22, 2004 @ 4:16 am
i’m not talking about your strapon, miss missy.
i’m both, actually… which one at the time will take dominance, however, depends upon the guy i’m with and the mood i’m in.
Comment by spycedtx — September 22, 2004 @ 4:24 am
speaking of all this.. are we lunching? (=
Comment by spycedtx — September 22, 2004 @ 4:24 am
We can do lunch every day this week :p Where do you want to go? I saw a Boston Market yesterday and got a hankering…
Comment by jaxia — September 22, 2004 @ 4:30 am
My psuedoname is Mikey. Mikey eats everything. *belch* as so evidenced by the ring around my bellah!
So, if you wanna do a BM today (hrmm, perhaps I should spell that out, especially after listening to the Edge this morning), we can do that. I think that’s over by you…
Comment by spycedtx — September 22, 2004 @ 4:32 am
I picked up this book at the library today.
What were the other ones that you recommended?
I can only think of this one & the Marianne Williamson one.
Comment by filterfactor — September 22, 2004 @ 5:30 am
Yeah, I talk like that in bed when the situation is right. It’s not quite appropriate for some kinds of sex, but it’s appropriate for some others.
Comment by kemidra — September 22, 2004 @ 5:34 am
‘Fuck’ to me is vulgar, suitable for cursing politicians and so forth (possibly on the senate floor), but not for having sex, which is fun. Certainly not to be linked to world-melting and other graceful metaphor.
My mind is blitzed out on barbecue at the moment.
Yarha, Fuck Fun?
“Ever heard the mating call of a clam?”
*folds arms across face, then slowly lifts upper and drops lower arm to ‘open the shell’*
“Wanna fuck?”
Comment by yarha — September 22, 2004 @ 5:49 am
Once upon a time ‘make love’ meant ‘have sex’. How did love get such a rotten connotation?
Yarha, ‘Make Out’ Doesn’t Count
Comment by yarha — September 22, 2004 @ 5:56 am
What’s wrong with vulgar?
Comment by jaxia — September 22, 2004 @ 6:19 am
Uhm, I’ve talked about a lot. Could you be more specific?
Comment by jaxia — September 22, 2004 @ 6:20 am
I bet the wax job and ‘fuck me’ makes for fun evenings
Comment by jaxia — September 22, 2004 @ 6:20 am
no- I cannot. :
Comment by filterfactor — September 22, 2004 @ 6:28 am
‘love me’?
haha. that’s new.
Your dates selected out of a Cherry Blossom catalogue? ;P
sounds like broken English.
“You see G.I.- smell like fish, taste like chicken. Fi dalla suckysucky”
well, i dunno- for me it just depends on what’s going on. If it started out um… frenzied then sure thing- otherwise I suppose I have mixed feelings about it.
But hotel sex- anything goes. Say whatever you want- fuck me, fuck you, fuck us- whatever. As long as I don’t hear “daddy” or “Mommy” or something gross like that.
Comment by filterfactor — September 22, 2004 @ 8:27 am
How about:
I wanna fuck you like an animal
Is that something gross?
Comment by jaxia — September 22, 2004 @ 8:49 am
no, that’s not gross.
that’s Nine Inch Nails.
Comment by filterfactor — September 22, 2004 @ 10:27 am
Call me extremely passionate or call me a sex fiend but….
Depending on your frame of mind and what picture you are looking at, you can find a time to love, to have sex and to fuck.
I believe that all three are all possible with a single person given the right circumstance.
Whether it starts with the smallest turn-on like her using her teeth to bite at her bottom lip, the out of the blue strip tease or being told “I want to fuck you” as you are being blindfolded and tied down, it is all about the desire that is there. The lust inside and yes when right, the passion. The passion.
There is nothing like seeing a woman melt inside herself because I told her I want to fuck her.
The moving from the sweet kisses to the burning that builds inside to the hair pulling and biting that follows to fucking each other…
Comment by darkeyesdreamin — September 22, 2004 @ 11:33 am
……..
Why do I feel like Jim in American Pie in this conversation?
Comment by maskedfencer — September 22, 2004 @ 12:32 pm
Something other than MJ 80s music and you got it!
/cheers
Comment by jaxia — September 22, 2004 @ 1:17 pm
hardy har har.
feel free to change my ring tone to something of this decade.
i watched Smallville.
I liked that it had Annette O’Toole (Superman movie she was Lana) & Margot Kidder (movie version- Lois) not to mention the Dukes of Hazard guy.
lotsa eye candy.
Comment by filterfactor — September 22, 2004 @ 1:24 pm
Annette O’Toole is a regular. I had no idea she was from the movies. And without the commercial teaser, I wouldn’t have known about the other chick either.
Yep. Eye candy.
/drools
Comment by jaxia — September 22, 2004 @ 1:44 pm
Which one is Jim?
Comment by jaxia — September 23, 2004 @ 1:29 am
Too much of it leads to degeneration of the soul, not to mention the mind.
Yarha, Soul Food
Comment by yarha — September 23, 2004 @ 1:45 am
No, it’s old.
Yarha, Sex with Hotels: Don’t Steal the Towels
Comment by yarha — September 23, 2004 @ 1:50 am
Especially for kinky ‘hot wax’ BDSM sessions. :p At least everything that can be singed off is already gone.
Yarha, Sex Wax the Boogie Board?
Comment by yarha — September 23, 2004 @ 1:53 am
Not as gross as ‘I wanna fuck you with an animal’. But close.
Yarha, Doggie Style :p
Comment by yarha — September 23, 2004 @ 1:55 am
Jim is the one who fails to get laid even when a supermodel is in his room naked.
The one that gets the band geek girl.
Comment by maskedfencer — September 23, 2004 @ 3:57 am
*ribs hurting*
No comment
Comment by jaxia — September 23, 2004 @ 4:45 am
The only reservation I’d have in that regard is who it’s being heard from. If it’s uttered by someone you’d like to be in bed with, I wholeheartedly concur.
Comment by apostate_96 — September 24, 2004 @ 8:54 am
Personally, I try not to wind up in bed with someone I don’t like to be there with
)
(and yay! for another Texan
Comment by jaxia — September 24, 2004 @ 9:20 am
I’m with you on that policy. Fortunatley, it’s not been much of an issue for the last five years…..actually, more like 8.5 years.
And, yup, born ‘n’ pretty much raised in good ol’ TX.
Comment by apostate_96 — September 26, 2004 @ 4:29 am
I grew up in Houston, and I’ve lived in Corpus Christi and DFW. I’m a true Texan
I’ll always call it home.
Congrats
Most people can’t keep a relationship together for 3 years, much less 8.5!!
Comment by jaxia — September 26, 2004 @ 2:00 pm
Thanks. We just had our 5-year anniversary this weekend. It still surprises me a bit to think we’ve been married that long, much less that we’re coming up on having spent 10 years together.
Born in El Paso, and lived either there or in Austin from the time I was about 5 ’til I was about 22. I’ve been gone since then, but it’s still what comes to mind when I think of home.
Comment by apostate_96 — September 27, 2004 @ 12:52 am