So, first things first – I got in touch with the dr. It was nothing to stress about; she really just wanted to move up my follow up visit since I was having a bad reaction to the other medications. I tried to give them a piece of my mind regarding sensitivity training, but I was so relieved it wasn’t serious that it was hard for me to remain in the appropriate mind set to really chew the lady out. Perhaps after the relief wears off, I’ll write them a nasty letter and encourage the dr to put all her employees through Sensitivity 101.
This weekend, I got a really awesome compliment. I called a friend to see if he wanted to meet me out. When he answered the phone, he said he had just been talking about me a little while ago.
Me: Oh? Good stuff?
Him: I need to get an egg.
Me: Huh? An egg?
Him: I need to get an egg from you.
Me: What? You want to take me to breakfast?
Him: No. An ovarian egg. As in to make a baby.
Me: Ohhhh.
Wow. Is that flattering, or what? And, it got me to thinking. Would I actually do it? And, I’ve decided, yes, yes I would. Especially for someone I know, where I could be a part of the child’s life. I wouldn’t need to be acknowledged as “mother,” just a friend of the family like everyone else. Maybe it’s my ego talking, but I think it’d be pretty sweet to see what a baby Amy would look like without having to deal with birthin’ a baby and stretch marks! I don’t think I could ever give a baby up for adoption though. If I carried the child, I just don’t think I could. I have a great respect for women who are able to do it.
So – Could you? Could you donate an egg or sperm? If yes, would your willingness be dependant upon whether or not you had contact with the child?
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That is a great compliment!
I know for a fact that I couldn’t donate an egg if I couldn’t be a part of the childs life. After having my son, I just couldn’t imagine a part of me being out there and not knowing how he/she was doing.
And even if I could have contact with the parents, I still don’t know if I would be able to do it.
*thinks* Ohhhhhhh that really is a tough question, I know that I am going to have this running through my head and I will be thinking about it for the rest of the day! *laughs*
Comment by trea_rulz — October 13, 2004 @ 4:41 am
I had a friend or relative who couldn’t have their own children I think I would do it. I would want to have a part in the child’s life though, but like you I wouldn’t demand to be acknowledged as egg mother. If they wanted the child to know I wouldn’t have a problem with it though.
I could never do it if I had to carry the child either.
Comment by transientmind — October 13, 2004 @ 4:56 am
I would do it, the only thing holding me back would be my phobic fear of needles (the retrieval process involves lots of needles including daily shots!)
*p.s. I didn’t get stretch marks hahaha
Comment by shirogirl — October 13, 2004 @ 5:04 am
I always wanted kids of my own . You can read the July 5th entry in My live Journal and see where that went kittywumpas. I really love babies and little kids and if you can distance your self from the donation and give some one of the best miracles of human existence a child well insert deity of your choice and bless you. Would I give up a egg? well at 37 my are natty and old.. so nope.
Mags
Comment by magdollna — October 13, 2004 @ 5:15 am
Glad your doc appt. went well.
Sperm? From me? Uh, too weird. Besides, donating sperm’s not nearly in the same ballpark as being an egg donor. I don’t think you can just donate just one egg, either. Don’t they pretty much raid the coop? The love of my life (long, sad story) was an egg donor. Sperm is much easier to obtain. (Insert internet pr0n joke here and so forth.)
I’m pretty sure my genes wouldn’t be exactly in demand, so I’ll opt out, thanks.
Yarha, Coop Dreams
Comment by yarha — October 13, 2004 @ 5:43 am
A physicist and a dancer??? HAH…I think perhaps you might be wrong on that note.
Comment by sichernde_seele — October 13, 2004 @ 6:45 am
if not for the needles & blood taking & “harvesting” I would. I mean if all I had to do was go to the fridge & take one out of the carton…
but then- I would probably feel horrible not being a part of the child’s life- so it would probably need to be anonymous. Chances are that I would be haunted by the thought & end up trying to locate any egg recipient. Which would not be good either.
I knew a couple where the male half was impotent & she was inseminated with the sperm of the husbands brother. (because of the close genetics of siblings). It ended up not being a good thing. but then anything resembling life in Kentucky can’t be good.
Comment by filterfactor — October 13, 2004 @ 7:08 am
I’m partially insane, weak, and have health issues. :p *cough-cough* If I can’t breed on my own, the population doesn’t want my genes.
Yarha, Insanity: It’s What’s for Breakfast!
Comment by yarha — October 13, 2004 @ 7:14 am
Yah, the husband’s brother part doesn’t sound good. I presume it wasn’t his impotence but his infertility? If he were merely impotent, she could’ve been inseminated with his sperm I think.
Yarha, Potence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder
Comment by yarha — October 13, 2004 @ 7:17 am
whatever- the details I remember had to do with having a low sperm count & not being able to maintain wood.
Comment by filterfactor — October 13, 2004 @ 7:19 am
Yeah, I think I would always wonder where they were, it the child was a boy or a girl..But I honestly think I could be in the child’s life as a friend if I did not carry the baby.
If you come up with anything else, let me know
Comment by jaxia — October 13, 2004 @ 9:40 am
If they eventually wanted to tell the child, that would be fine with me too.
Comment by jaxia — October 13, 2004 @ 9:42 am
You didn’t get stretch marks?!? How did you do it? I always thought I would get awful stretch marks because I am small.
Comment by jaxia — October 13, 2004 @ 9:44 am
We need more smart babies. Too many dumb people are breeding.
Comment by jaxia — October 13, 2004 @ 9:45 am
Why was it not a good thing?
Comment by jaxia — October 13, 2004 @ 9:46 am
I didn’t do anything. I read there is nothing you can do to prevent them, it’s all genetics.
Comment by shirogirl — October 13, 2004 @ 9:47 am
they divorced over it.
Comment by filterfactor — October 13, 2004 @ 9:47 am
That is definitly a huge compliment. I think I could do it depending on my relationship with the other person involved.
As far as wanting to be involved with it….*thinks* that is such a hard question…yknow. I think I would want to be because naturally it would be a part of me.
But then again maybe not….good luck with whutever you deciede…
P.S. Did ya ever get my CD?
Comment by mister_fister — October 13, 2004 @ 4:46 pm
Not from me.
I know people who’re both healthy *and* smart. 
’sides, education is the best contraceptive.
Yarha, I are Edumacated Stupid
Comment by yarha — October 14, 2004 @ 12:58 am
Think of it this way: your brother-in-law is the father of your child. Then there’s the fact your husband is impotent (presumably resistant to modern potency enhancers). SO..uh..what part, exactly, does he play in the relationship picture? You’d better like him a lot for his personality or there’s not much point.
Big stress, that.
Yarha, Viagra: Saviour of Humanity
Comment by yarha — October 14, 2004 @ 1:00 am
Hehe, we are not going to do it
(Well, he was really asking me…I don’t think. It was more of those…”One of these days…” kinda things.
Yes! Yes, I did. Did you not get my email?
Comment by jaxia — October 14, 2004 @ 1:24 am
Yeah, but if you can’t handle it, don’t do it. It’s like people who have 3somes and then get jealous.
*eye roll*
Comment by jaxia — October 14, 2004 @ 1:25 am
I’m doomed then. But then, most of my family weighs quite a bit more than I do, so maybe I can buck the trend.
When are you due? Are you hoping to have a holiday baby?
Comment by jaxia — October 14, 2004 @ 1:27 am
I could (and probably will in the future). The damn things won’t be used otherwise — in addition to being a dyke and having hyperemeisis gravidium (probably horribly incorrect spelling, but either way it’s like being allergic to pregnancy), I can’t stand kids and will never have them.
I don’t want contact with the kid, though.
Comment by samila — October 14, 2004 @ 2:58 am
I know, but people do make mistakes like that. ‘It sounded like a good idea at the time’.
Frankly, I can’t imagine wanting a child that badly, but then I’m just that way.
Yarha, Kid Ambivalent
Comment by yarha — October 14, 2004 @ 5:49 am